It’s Labor Day weekend. The first window to get to check in, lay eyes on them, hug them.
Except not this year cause #COVID.

You get the call or text that they are miserable. Alone. Don’t know how to connect.

You just want to go get them, hug them, call the RA or roommate to help.

• Perspective.
• All change is uncomfortable at best.
• Remember grade school to jr high, jr high to high school. 
• It is a pandemic so underlying stressors make it feel bigger.
• They made friends before, they will again.
• Reality
• It will be different...but that is why they chose college. To stretch themselves.
• The pandemic won’t last forever.
• There are connections to be made. The ball is in their court though.
• What can you do.
  • Instead of telling them what to do to fix it, ask them questions.
  • What are you doing to meet/connect with others?
  • Why or why not?
  • How are you feeling about your choices?
  • What else can you do?
• Be an ear. Sometimes they don’t want you to fix things....

Episode 30- 7 Important Deadlines you’ve got to know 

I’m sharing my top 7 important deadlines you’ve got to know and why.

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Episode 29- Hello, my name is Lesa and I’m a helicopter mom

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On this episode I’m sharing…

• the definition of a helicopter mom (different from a Karen)
• how I realized I was one
• My story
• How i am working on recovering and how you can to

Three areas you can “help” them with that will make you the cool mom 

Or Tips for success

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Whether you are a tech savvy momma or can barely text... this episode is for you.

Don’t give away all these tips at once to your student. Instead check them out and then drop a tip here and there. You’ll gain credibility :)

• Note taking apps
  • Evernote is available for Android, iOS, Windows and even Blackberry, it is a great program for students who wish to share information on more than one operating system.
  • Note Anytime
  • Google Keep https://keep.google.com/u/0/#home
  • https://www.notion.so/
  • Notability https://www.gingerlabs.com/
  • Google docs

     2. Time management apps

• Order food on your phone, don’t wait in line.
• Can you do the same for laundry
• Remember the Milk- task list/ My...

This week I share some advice from a student, advice from a faculty member and a few things to consider before charging you to write a letter to your college student.

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Let me be clear, I am not a therapist or psychologist. I’m a mom that has done a lot of work on my own mind so I can be a better person, mom, wife, daughter, friend. 

1. Label it. 

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Why is putting our feelings into words beneficial?  A brain imaging study by UCLA psychologists which appears in the journal Psychological Science, may give us the answer.  Verbalizing our negative feelings makes excessive or persistent sadness, anger and pain less intense.

Do the work yourself to see.

When you recognize the feeling of uneasiness stop.

Either verbal label the feeling or write it down. “I am feeling anxious, nervous, uneasy, apprehensive.” You get my drift. According to science the response in your brain happens because you have...

While your student is no longer a toddler and under your roof 24/7 your attitude and behavior still influence them and how they think/respond.

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How to help your college student by helping yourself.

I'm covering the top 6 categories of campus that will look different for fall 2020.

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30 things you gotta teach your college student before you drop them off on campus.

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Gap Year, Yes or No 

Reasons for a gap year.

The good things about a growth year.

The things to 'worry' about a gap year.

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