Episode 45- My top 5 books for 2020
Dec 14, 2020
As we begin to reflect on the past year and consider what 2021 may bring us I always appreciate others sharing their top reads for the year. Here are mine and why.
- The Bible
Loving What Is- Byron Katie
- It has always been a goal of mine to read the entire Bible in a year. I can finally say I did it. I just committed to reading for 15 minutes every day. Did I miss some days? Yep, but I kept going. Going to do it again next year!
- Joshua 1:9 Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
- Deuteronomy 4:29 And if you search for him with all your heart and soul you will find him.
- Proverbs 4:7 Getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do! And whatever else you do, get good judgment.
- Proverbs 12:29 Worry weights a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up.
- Ecclesiastes 1:9 History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new.
- Ecclesiastes 11:4 If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.
- Habakkuk 2:3 But these things I plan won’t happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, wait patiently for it will surely take place.
The Art of War- Steven Pressfield
- This one spoke to my broken heart. I had lost my Drew and was in a very dark place. But I had my husband and daughters that still needed me. This book helped me look inside, process my hurt, and figure out how to pick it up and carry it with me as I kept moving forward.
- “Anything that’s out of my control, your control, and everyone else’s control- I call that God’s business.”
- “I realized that I could be right, or I could be free.”
- “...your way of mentally arguing with what is. It doesn’t do you any good, and it doesn’t change <anything>; it’s only effect is to cause you stress.”
- “Nothing outside you can ever give you what you’re looking for.”
Big Magic- Elizabeth Gilbert
- This one I got from Marie Forleo. It is a quick read. It helped me realize my thing. The thing I get excited to share with others. It reminds me what resistance looks/feels like and how to talk myself through it. These lessons can apply to you and your student.
- Paperback version on Amazon for less than $5.
- “Many of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”
- “Resistance is the most toxic force on the planet.”
- “Resistance has no strength of its own. Every of juice it possesses comes from us. We feed it with power by or fear of it.”
- “It’s target is the epicenter of our being: our genius, our soul, the unique and priceless gift we were put on earth to give and that no one else has but us.”
Story Brand- Donald Miller
- Another book that helped point me to my new life’s work. There are many jewels in here that may speak to you (finding your new or transitioning role in life) or to your student as they look for their life’s work. I read this in paperback and then listened again on audio.
- “Be the weirdo who dares to enjoy.”
- “Done is better than good.”
- “It seems to me that the less I fight my fear, the less it fights back. If I can relax, fear relaxes, too.”
- “perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat,”
- “We all spend our twenties and thirties trying so hard to be perfect, because we’re so worried about what people will think of us. Then we get into our forties and fifties, and we finally start to be free, because we decide that we don’t give a damn what anyone thinks of us. But you won’t be completely free until you reach your sixties and seventies, when you finally realize this liberating truth—nobody was ever thinking about you, anyhow.”
Free to Focus- Michael Hyatt
- This one helped me understand how to talk to others….both in my university work and in my Not your college life business. Stories help people understand and feel connected. Isn’t that what we are all looking for? This one I listened to about three times this year. I see this for you or your student.
- "Story helps because it is a sense-making mechanism. Essentially, story formulas put everything in order so the brain doesn’t have to work to understand what’s going on.”
- “Simply put, we must show people the cost of not doing business with us.”
- “Nancy is a great friend! We highly recommend Nancy and her team!” While those are nice words, they do very little in telling a story of transformation.”
- “Identifying our customers’ problems deepens their interest in the story we are telling.”
It Doesn’t Have to Be Crazy at Work- Jason Fried
- This one was an audio listen for me, twice. Probably will go back once more yet this year. Truly amazing tips on how to manage your time, tasks and to dos to be productive and take ownership of your life.
- “Disappointing some people in life is inevitable, so make sure you’re not disappointing the ones who matter most,”
- “Productivity is not about getting more things done; it's about getting the right things done.”
- This one I just learned about from Kristen Hadeed. Currently listening to on Hoopla. And it SPOKE. TO. MY. SOUL. after the year at work I’ve had. Thinking I’ll apply for work at Basecamp….any job!
- “A great work ethic isn’t about working whenever you’re called upon. It’s about doing what you say you’re going to do, putting in a fair day’s work, respecting the work, respecting the customer, respecting coworkers, not wasting time, not creating unnecessary work for other people, and not being a bottleneck. Work ethic is about being a fundamentally good person that others can count on and enjoy working with.”
- “Sustained exhaustion is not a badge of honor, it’s a mark of stupidity.”
- “Walk into a library anywhere in the world and you’ll notice the same thing: It’s quiet and calm. Everyone knows how to behave in a library. In fact, few things transcend cultures like library behavior. It’s a place where people go to read, think, study, focus, and work. And the hushed, respectful environment reflects that. Isn’t that what an office should be?”
- “Everyone wants to be heard and respected. It usually doesn’t cost much to do, either. And it doesn’t really matter all that much whether you ultimately think you’re right and they’re wrong. Arguing with heated feelings will just increase the burn.”
- “It’s not uncommon for people to pick up their phones dozens of times a day when some push notification makes it buzz, because WHAT IF IT WAS SOMETHING SUPER IMPORTANT! (It just about never is.)” JOMO!
- “If you spend 20 percent each on getting five things to 80 percent, well, then, you’ve done five things!”
- “what doesn’t get done in 40 hours by Friday at 5 picks up again Monday morning at 9.”