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This week I’m talking about what happens when your college emails you to say you are not a student anymore. Your grades just didn’t make the cut for two or more semesters and now you aren’t a student there any more. 

I got you.

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First, remember this is a circumstance.

It’s neutral. 

It’s not good. 

It’s not bad.

What you chose to think about it is what matters.

What should you think? Well let’s look back and the last couple semesters to see if we can uncover why you are where you are today.

Do any of these situations resonate with you?

• High school was easy and you didn’t have to study
• You had a lot of unscheduled time
• You weren’t sure how to study
• You were involved in a lot of clubs/organizations
• You worked a lot
• You gamed
• You felt...

In this week's episode I'm revisiting my why with you and sharing some news about what is coming next.

This episode is dedicated to all the things the parent of a college student must figure out despite FERPA and HIPPA. Godspeed, friends! It is not easy.

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Your student’s health

You are most likely still the provider of insurance coverage, copays and deductibles. However once they turn 18 your ability to easily manage all that has become challenging.

Likewise FERPA creates a very similar challenge on the academic side of life. Your student is looking to you for support and guidance and paying tuition and housing. But you have to figure out how to do that as someone on the outside.

Now many universities have parent or guardian access that students can provide to those that are helping them. But those are not necessarily easy to figure out, there is typically more than one, and you will most likely need some uninterrupted time with your student to set...

When we become mothers there is this seemingly natural phenomenon that happens to us. We tend to pay more attention to the health and care of our spouse and our children and let our own take the back seat. This week I’m talking with Alma about how to get your own health back.

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Alma Ronquillo is the founder of Nourished by Alma….she specializes in Gut Health, with her mission being to bring Spiritual and Physical Gut health into harmony.

I was so intrigued as I personally let my own health suffer to the point of emergency surgery just a few months after losing my youngest child. 

We talk about why we tend to ignore our own health, some tactics on how to handle empty nest syndrome, and some practical advisor to more forward.

Remember yourself at their age and what you needed. Try to be that person to your emerging adult.

Write down...

This week I’m covering my recommended To Do’s once Final Grades are released.
Where to find them, how to fix incorrect grades, and next steps depending on the grades.

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• What is “official date”
• LMS versus transcript
  • Whats the difference
• What to do if it’s wrong
  • Email faculty
  • Follow up
  • Find out who dept head is
  • Find out who is responsible for entering grade
  • Have evidence of why you think it’s wrong
• What if there is a failed class
  • Reflect on why
  • Study time
  • Skill
  • Instructor
  • Time management
  • Just a really hard class
  • Wrong major
• Do they need to retake?
  • Figure out retake rules
  • When is it offered again
  • Implications to next term classes
  • Implications to time to degree
  • Retake at same university or somewhere else to transfer back
  • Courses that will need to be dropped
  • Shuffle other courses
  • Consult with advisor
  • Delay...

While May 1 has lost a little of the “umphf” it had prior to COVID it’s still an important date for every high school senior and college administrator. 

For your student, the list of To Do’s seems to multiple like mushrooms at night and they all are very close together in due dates.

For college admin, it’s very similar. Lots of planning and anticipation based on those May 1 commitments before the first day of class. 

Here are some things you can share with your student to help with their decision making.

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Confirm the due date for your college/s of interest.

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Fit

• In person/online/hybrid
• Class size
• Campus size
• Major choices
• Culture
• Study abroad
• Extra curricular
• Carol Ben-Davies
  • https://carolbendavies.com/ 

Consider your own...

The most wanted graduation gifts for a high school or college grad.

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College graduate or HS grad going to job

• Custom pet pillows
• New watch
• Some may prefer a traditional watch while others may desire the smart watch
• Tree planted in their name
• Charitable donation in their name
• Car
• Sentimental item
• Compass
• Coin
• Memorabilia
• Professional pen
• Business card holder
• Portfolio
• Messenger bag
• Splurge trip before grown up job starts
• Musical instrument
• Jewelry
• Ring
• Earrings
• Necklace
• Tatto
• Disney world trip
• New cookware
• Pay rent for a  or two months
• Nice coffee maker
• New flatware
• Noise canceling headphones
• Microwave
• Joy’s money management webinars
• Credit management 101 
• 60 minute budget bootcamp
• Student loan debt 101
• What is a student loan
• How does it work
• Repayment
• Forgiveness
• Piece of art

High school going to college

• Gift cards for...

This week I’m talking with a parent that had a freshman in fall 2020. She’s sharing her experience, her lessons learned, what she’d do differently with us. 

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Kathleen shares what surprised her about the first year and how she responded.
She also shares what surprised her daughter about the first year. I love how she is a student of her student in order to be a great parent to her.

Give our talk a listen and then send me a message to let me know a piece of your story. I love connecting with you.

Let’s talk about a major issue.

1. Your student tells you they don’t think they are in the right major.
2. They need to apply but don’t know which major to apply to.
3. They are failing classes.

So what is a parent to do when your student wants to change majors? What does that do to timeline? Is there a way to save the current and add a minor/concentration/certificate in the other discipline that will allow them to complete on time.

Not just “many” but a majority–a whopping 80% of college students will change their majors at least once. So is it worth switching majors? Well, it entirely depends on your individual situation. Switching majors might be the right move into a new field of study, or it might set you back a few semesters. Talk through the idea with your academic advisor before making any permanent decisions, and make sure you weigh all the pros and cons.

1. Do some homework.

• Trust your gut. If you hate to write, being a novelist, reporter,...

Joy is back talking about the student loan servicers, forgiveness programs and which options may be best for you.

• Teacher student loan forgiveness
• Public service student loan forgiveness
• Income based repayment student loan forgiveness

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Joy’s blog on student loan forgiveness.
Joy’s free and paid webinars.
Joy’s books.